Facing the Death Mother: Remembrance of Things Lost

painting by Hannah Dansie

art credit: Hannah Dansie


Greetings, dear readers!

The following is a continuation of our blog series “Reflections from the Heart of the Feminine.” If you’re just joining us you may want to start here.


Quotation from Chapter 1 for Reflection and Discussion:

When we first come into the world, we are small, fragile, and defenseless. We are totally dependent on the love and care of our parents, especially our mothers. In our modern society, we have learned very well how to take care of the physical, biological, and even the developmental needs of our babies, even though parents at various socio-economic levels still face vastly different challenges as they meet their infantsʼ needs. But we have let a vital need, the one whose fulfillment will determine our ability to have a feeling of self-worth and security, slip through the cracks of modern life. If our emotional needs are not met at the right time, we will face a daunting task later in life as we try to heal the structural wounds of our personalities. Like a plant that doesnʼt get enough water or sun early on, we will have trouble growing to our full height, no matter how much fertilizer we get later. Fortunately, unlike plants, we can direct our consciousness and self-awareness toward healing, which can give us new foundations for fulfilling our lives. (p. 4)


Questions for Journaling and Group Discussion:

Are you surprised at how much our earliest life affects us today?

Does it make sense to you that our own attitudes towards ourselves began with our motherʼs attitudes?

Were you surprised to see how many of the attributes (p. 15) of the Death Mother are common in your life and surroundings?

To get a good introduction to the Death Mother archetype, watch Massimilla’s lecture on the topic:



A Jungian book to heal the wounded feminine archetype

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